Alexandra Spartels
Practical support for relationship and trauma concerns
PACFA Australia
- Experience
- 11 years in practice
- Focus areas
- Relationship, Family, Trauma and abuse
- Approaches
- Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Languages
- English
About Alexandra
Alexandra Spartels is a PACFA counsellor with 11 years of professional experience. She helps people who are dealing with relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, grief and loss.
Background and approach
She also supports those coping with anger, stress, anxiety and changes at work or home. Alexandra aims to create an open, non-judgemental space where thoughts and feelings can be spoken about honestly.
Sessions focus on practical steps and clearer communication rather than jargon. She encourages small, manageable changes that can reduce day-to-day overwhelm.
Her approach blends relational and trauma-informed methods. Alexandra uses Gottman Method ideas to help people understand interaction patterns and rebuild connection.
She also works with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Emotionally-Focused Therapy to help clients notice emotions and commit to valued actions. For people affected by deeper wounds, Alexandra includes EMDR and hypnotherapy tools when appropriate.
These methods can assist with intrusive memories, dissociation and old painful experiences that still affect daily life. She explains options clearly and involves clients in deciding the next steps.
Alexandra works with issues such as avoidant patterns, codependency, communication breakdowns, family of origin problems, guilt, shame and responses to infidelity or narcissistic behaviour. She aims to help people build self-compassion, stronger boundaries and clearer choices as they move forward.
Approaches for online relationship and trauma work
Gottman Method ideas focus on how people interact and communicate. Online sessions can use these ideas to identify unhelpful patterns, practise new ways of talking and rebuild connection in day-to-day life.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice difficult thoughts and feelings while choosing actions that match their values. In an online setting ACT work often uses short exercises, values clarification and practical homework to build useful habits.
Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) concentrates on emotions that drive relationship behaviour. Online EFT sessions help people name and sit with key feelings, then create new patterns of interaction that reduce conflict and increase closeness.
Finding the best approach is part of the work. Alexandra will discuss different methods and decide together which fits a person’s needs, goals and preferences. The therapist adapts methods as progress is made so care remains collaborative.
Online therapy offers flexibility and easier scheduling. Video calls let people use visual cues for relational work, phone sessions can suit short check-ins or lower bandwidth, and live chat or text messaging work well for brief reflections or between-session support. These options make it simpler to fit therapy into a busy life and to continue work even when travel is difficult.
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Experience
11+ years
Registered with
PACFA
Languages
English