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Robert Lower

Practical, steady support for everyday struggles

ACA Australia

Experience
16 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Self esteem
Approaches
Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Languages
English

About Robert

Robert Lower is an ACA counsellor with 16 years of experience. He helps people who are stressed, anxious, low in confidence, or struggling with life changes.

Background and approach

He writes in a direct, calm way and encourages the first step towards seeking support. Robert keeps the room straightforward and non-judgemental.

He listens to what matters to each person and helps them name problems and practical next steps. Conversations focus on what is getting in the way now and what might change in small, manageable ways.

He draws on a few well-established approaches, including the Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and attachment-based ideas. These help with relationships, difficult feelings, and building clearer personal values or boundaries.

Techniques might include noticing unhelpful thinking, learning new communication habits, and practising small experiments between sessions. Robert has worked with people across many concerns such as depression, addictions, grief, trauma, ADHD and issues around intimacy and self-esteem.

He also supports people facing career stress, carer fatigue, chronic illness or changes in family roles. He aims to keep work practical and relatable rather than full of psychological jargon.

Starting with him usually means a short conversation about goals and what a few sessions could look like. Robert keeps a steady, encouraging style and helps people notice progress as they try new ways of coping.

Therapeutic approaches suited to online work

Robert commonly draws on the Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and attachment-based ideas. The Gottman Method focuses on improving communication patterns and practical skills for handling conflict and connection. ACT helps people clarify what matters to them and take small committed actions despite difficult thoughts or feelings. Attachment-based work looks at how early patterns influence current relationships and helps people build more supported ways of relating.

Finding the right approach is a process. Robert collaborates with each person to test what helps most, mixing techniques from different approaches to suit goals and preferences. He checks in on progress and adjusts the plan as needed so sessions feel useful and focused on real-life changes.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging. Video calls are good for longer conversation and visual connection, phone sessions work well when bandwidth is limited, chat can be a shorter check-in, and messaging suits brief reflections or ongoing support between appointments. These options give flexibility so therapeutic work can fit around family, work and other commitments.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does this counsellor help with?
He works with a wide range of concerns including stress, anxiety, depression, addictions, grief, trauma, self-esteem and relationship-related issues.
What is his therapeutic style like?
His approach is down-to-earth and collaborative. He focuses on practical steps, clear communication and making small changes that add up over time.
How long has he been practising?
Robert has 16 years of counselling experience in Australia and brings that background to everyday challenges and longer-standing difficulties.
What credential does he hold and where is he based?
He is an ACA counsellor based in Australia and works with people using approaches suited to their needs.
Can I see him if I live overseas or prefer another language?
Sessions are offered in English and he is not accepting international clients at this time.
Which session formats are available?
Sessions can be done by video call, phone, live chat or text-based messaging depending on what suits the person best.
How much do sessions cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin therapy with him?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Also works with

AddictionsLGBTFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseGriefIntimacy-related issuesEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderCoping with life changesCoachingCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAdoption and foster careAging and geriatric issuesAntisocial personalityAttachment issuesAutism and Asperger SyndromeAvoidant personalityBDSM, kink, and alternative sex cultureBlended family issuesBody imageCancerCaregiver issues and stressChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsControl issuesCoping with natural or human-caused disasterDependent personalityDisruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)DissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEating and food-related issuesEmptinessFamily of origin issuesFamily problemsFatherhood issuesFertility issuesFirst responder issuesForgivenessGender dysphoriaGuilt and shameHearing impairedHIV / AIDSHoardingHospice and end-of-life counsellingImmigration issuesImpulsivityInfidelityIntellectual disabilityIsolation / lonelinessJealousyLife purposeMen's issuesMidlife crisisVeteran and Armed Forces IssuesMoney and financial issuesMood disordersMulticultural concernsNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksParanoiaPersonality disordersPhobiasPolyamory / non-monogamous relationshipsPostpartum depressionPost-traumatic stressPrejudice and discriminationProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Self-harmSelf-loveSex addictionSexual assault and abuseSexual dysfunctionSexualitySmoking / vaping cessationSocial anxiety and phobiaSomatizationTraumatic brain injuryTrichotillomaniaVisually impairedWomen's issuesWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centred TherapyCognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyEye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)Gottman MethodHypnotherapyImago Relationship TherapyJungian TherapyMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family SystemsSystemic Therapy

Experience

16+ years

Registered with

ACA

Languages

English