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Dr. Estella Lerlo

Calm, practical therapy for relationship and anxiety worries

LMFT California

Experience
14 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Relationship, Trauma and abuse
Approaches
Gottman Method, Attachment-Based Therapy
Languages
English

About Estella

Dr. Estella Lerlo is a California licensed marriage and family therapist with 14 years of clinical experience.

Background and approach

She helps people facing stress, anxiety, relationship strain, trauma, and intimacy concerns. She aims to make first steps into therapy feel understandable and manageable for anyone who is nervous about starting.

She creates a calm, nonjudgmental space where clients can talk about what matters most. Sessions focus on clear communication, naming difficult feelings, and building small steps that feel doable.

The work is practical and grounded in everyday life rather than abstract theory. Dr.

Lerlo draws on approaches that look at how relationships and early bonds shape current difficulties. She uses tools from attachment-based work and the Gottman Method to address patterns between partners and within close relationships.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy, and mindfulness techniques are tools she brings in to help manage worry and stress. Typical topics include abandonment and attachment worries, communication problems, codependency, infidelity, and trouble with intimacy.

She also supports people dealing with life transitions, money stress, first responder strain, post-traumatic stress, and the fallout from disasters. Sessions are offered in English and are available by video, phone, live chat, or text messaging.

Dr. Lerlo works collaboratively with each person to set clear goals and practical next steps that fit their life and comfort level.

How approaches and online care come together

Dr. Lerlo commonly uses the Gottman Method to look at interaction patterns between partners and teach concrete skills for managing conflict and increasing connection. Gottman-informed work focuses on communication habits, reducing criticism, and building small rituals that strengthen relationships.

She also draws on attachment-based therapy to help clients understand how early bonds influence present feelings and reactions. This approach is useful for people who notice recurring fears about abandonment, closeness, or trust. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is used to identify unhelpful thoughts and test small behavior changes to reduce anxiety and improve day-to-day functioning.

Choosing the right approach is part of the collaboration. She will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what feels most helpful, then try approaches that match those needs. Adjustments are made along the way if something doesn’t fit.

Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video is often used for deeper conversations and skills practice, phone calls can work when bandwidth is low, live chat offers a shorter check-in option, and messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options make it easier to fit therapy into busy schedules and different life situations.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does she address?
She helps people with stress, anxiety, relationship strain, trauma and intimacy-related issues, plus related topics like codependency, infidelity, and communication problems.
What is her therapeutic style like?
Her approach is direct and practical, offering clear steps to change patterns and improve communication while also attending to emotions and attachment needs.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She has 14 years of professional experience working with a range of relationship and anxiety concerns.
Where is she licensed and practicing?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed in California.
Which languages are offered for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the United States work with her?
She does not accept international clients at this time.
What session formats are available?
Sessions can be scheduled as video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to match different needs and schedules.
How do cost and scheduling work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time. To begin, select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Gottman MethodMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingNarrative TherapySolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

14+ years

Licensed in

California

Languages

English