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Dr. Anthony Shay

Relationship-focused counselor who uses practical tools

LPC Wisconsin

Experience
3 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, Trauma and abuse, Anger
Approaches
Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Languages
English
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About Anthony

Dr. Anthony Shay is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) based in Wisconsin.

Background and approach

He holds a Doctorate in Education and a master's degree in Professional Counseling from Saint Mary’s University of Minnesota. He combines clinical training with practical experience to help people facing emotional and life stressors.

Dr. Shay focuses on problems like anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship struggles, addiction, and grief.

He also helps with parenting strain, career concerns, attention differences, and health-related challenges such as chronic pain and aging issues. He aims to make sessions straightforward and useful rather than full of jargon.

In sessions he adapts methods to each person's needs. He uses approaches such as the Gottman Method for relationship work and ACT and CBT techniques for mood and behavior change.

He balances structured skill-building with empathic listening and attention to how life circumstances affect choices. His style is collaborative and practical.

He helps people notice unhelpful patterns, practice new ways of responding, and set realistic goals for daily life. He will work at a pace that feels manageable and focuses on what matters most to the person in front of him.

Dr. Shay also pays attention to complex or overlapping concerns, like co-morbid conditions and the emotional impact of illness, loss, or major life change.

He aims to make therapy something people can use between sessions to cope and move forward.

How his approaches translate to online therapy

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice painful thoughts without getting stuck in them and then act toward chosen values. It can be useful for anxiety, depression, and coping with life changes. The Gottman Method focuses on improving communication, managing conflict, and rebuilding connection in close relationships; it helps people practice concrete skills for better interactions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the link between thoughts, feelings, and actions and teaches tools to change unhelpful patterns that contribute to mood and behavior problems.

Choosing the right approach is part of the work. He will talk with the person about goals, preferences, and what feels useful. Together they decide whether to emphasize ACT, Gottman-informed techniques, CBT, or a mix tailored to current needs.

Online sessions are offered as video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different schedules and situations. Video is helpful for more interactive skill practice and relationship work. Phone sessions can be a shorter check-in and need less bandwidth. Text-based options and live chat allow ongoing support between calls. These formats make it easier to fit therapy into busy lives and to continue work across different settings.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of problems does he help with?
He works with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, anger, self-esteem, addictions, relationship and intimacy issues, parenting concerns, grief, depression, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and related challenges.
What is his therapeutic style like?
His style mixes practical skill-building with empathic listening. He adapts methods to the person and focuses on usable strategies for daily life.
What background does he bring to sessions?
He holds a Doctorate in Education and a master’s degree in Professional Counseling, plus three years of clinical experience working across many concerns.
Where is he licensed and located?
He is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in Wisconsin and provides services from that state.
Can I work with him if I live outside the U.S.?
International clients are accepted and sessions are offered in English for people living in other countries.
Which session formats are available?
Sessions can be arranged as video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging depending on what fits the person's needs.
How are sessions paid for?
Cost varies with location and therapist arrangements; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin therapy with him?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, completing a short matching questionnaire, and then scheduling according to therapist availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Stress, AnxietyTrauma and abuseAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficulties

Also works with

AddictionsRelationship issuesFamily conflictsGriefIntimacy-related issuesParenting issuesBipolar disorderDepressionCoping with life changesCompassion fatigueADHD

Additional focus areas

Aging and geriatric issuesChronic pain, illness, and disabilityCo-morbidityCommunication problemsControl issuesDissociationDivorce and separationDomestic violenceDrug and alcohol addictionEmptinessForgivenessGuilt and shameImpulsivityInfidelityIsolation / lonelinessLife purposeMen's issuesMood disordersPanic disorder and panic attacksPost-traumatic stressProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)Sex addictionSocial anxiety and phobiaSomatizationWorkplace issues

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyCognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)Gottman MethodMindfulness TherapyMotivational InterviewingSolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

3+ years

Licensed in

Wisconsin

Languages

English