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Nicola Murray

Compassionate, practical counselling for adults

BACP United Kingdom

Experience
6 years in practice
Focus areas
Stress, Anxiety, LGBT, Relationship
Approaches
Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Languages
English

About Nicola

Nicola Murray is a counsellor with six years' experience helping adults manage anxiety, stress and life changes. She works with people who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward.

Background and approach

Nicola aims to help clients find practical ways to cope and reconnect with their sense of self. She trained in cognitive behavioural therapy, often called CBT, and uses it alongside other approaches to suit each person.

Sessions are collaborative - Nicola listens first, then helps set small, realistic steps. That might mean practising new ways of thinking, trying different communication skills, or learning tools to manage strong emotions.

Nicola has particular experience with intimacy and relationship patterns, anger, trust issues, ADHD and obsessive-compulsive concerns. She also supports people facing grief, addiction, career strain, parenting pressures and caring roles.

Nicola can help with sleep and eating difficulties, low self-esteem, and coping after separation or loss. The Gottman Method features in her work when the focus is on how partners talk and reconnect.

Attachment-based ideas are used to look at patterns formed in close relationships. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy techniques may be offered to build values-led actions alongside symptom management.

Sessions are offered in English and she works with clients in the United Kingdom and internationally. Nicola uses a conversational, down-to-earth style and a step-by-step pace that fits people who want practical change as well as emotional understanding.

Therapeutic approaches suited to online work

Nicola often combines the Gottman Method with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to address relationship and personal concerns. The Gottman Method focuses on how partners communicate and reconnect, offering practical exercises to reduce conflict and rebuild closeness. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT, helps people accept difficult thoughts and feelings while taking actions that match their values, which can reduce avoidance and increase meaningful activity.

Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. Nicola will discuss your goals and try approaches that match your needs and preferences. Over a few sessions she will check what helps most and adapt the work so it feels useful and manageable for you.

Online therapy offers flexible ways to meet. Video calls let you work face to face when visual cues matter. Phone sessions are useful when bandwidth is limited or you need a shorter check-in. Live chat and text-based messaging can suit people who prefer writing, need frequent brief contact, or want to fit sessions around busy days. These options make it easier to access consistent support from UK-based and international clients while working on relationship patterns, anxiety, stress and everyday coping.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of concerns does Nicola work with?
She supports adults with stress, anxiety, depression and life transitions as well as relationship and intimacy issues. Additional areas include ADHD, addictions, grief, trauma, sleep and eating difficulties.
What is Nicola's therapy style like?
Nicola takes a conversational, down-to-earth approach and works collaboratively. Sessions focus on small steps, practical skills and exploring relationship patterns when relevant.
What experience does she bring?
She has six years' clinical experience working with adults across a range of concerns including anger, trust issues and OCD-related struggles.
What professional credential does Nicola hold and where is she based?
She is listed with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, shown as BACP, and practises from the United Kingdom.
Which languages and locations are supported?
Sessions are offered in English and Nicola accepts international clients alongside those in the UK.
What session formats are available?
Therapy can take place via video calls, phone sessions, live chat or text-based messaging to match different needs and schedules.
How are costs and billing handled?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with Nicola?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

Also works with

AddictionsFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseGriefEating disordersSleeping disordersParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesDepressionCoping with life changesCompassion fatigue

Therapeutic approaches

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centred TherapyCognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)Gottman MethodMindfulness TherapySolution-Focused TherapySomatic TherapyTrauma-Focused Therapy

Experience

6+ years

Registered with

BACP

Languages

English