Nicholas Ashley
Practical, compassionate counselling for life changes
BACP United Kingdom
- Experience
- 7 years in practice
- Focus areas
- LGBT, Relationship, Trauma and abuse
- Approaches
- Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Languages
- English
About Nicholas
Nicholas Ashley is a counsellor with seven years of professional experience in the United Kingdom. He specialises in relationship concerns, LGBT-related issues, trauma and abuse, grief and loss, and common difficulties such as anxiety, depression and stress.
Background and approach
He aims to make first steps feel manageable for people who are hesitant or unsure about therapy. Nicholas creates a calm, non‑judgemental space where people can say what they feel.
He listens for the patterns that cause recurring arguments, worry or low mood. Sessions focus on what the person wants to change and on simple steps they can try between meetings.
He uses conversational, evidence-informed methods like the Gottman Method, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and attachment-based ideas. That means practical work on communication and on learning to tolerate strong feelings without getting overwhelmed.
He also draws on cognitive behavioural techniques to spot unhelpful thoughts and try different responses. Nicholas pays attention to life context such as work strain, parenting pressures, chronic health concerns and identity-related stress.
He also supports people dealing with grief, addiction, sleep or eating struggles, and career uncertainty. The aim is steady progress rather than quick fixes.
Sessions are offered in English and may be delivered online by video, phone, live chat or text messaging. The subscription model used for sessions can be cancelled at any time, and international clients may take part when appropriate.
How his approaches translate to online therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice difficult thoughts and feelings without fighting them, while focusing on values-based action. It can be useful for anxiety, depression and coping with life changes. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship patterns affect current connections and emotional reactions, and it can help with intimacy issues and relationship distress. The Gottman Method concentrates on improving communication and reducing repeated negative cycles between partners by using practical skills and small behaviour changes.Nicholas approaches choice of method as a collaboration. He will discuss what matters most to the client and try approaches that match their priorities and comfort. Together they review what works and adjust the plan as therapy progresses.
Online sessions are offered by video calls, phone, live chat or text-based messaging, which makes therapy more flexible. Video is good for face-to-face conversation and working on communication skills. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or for shorter check-ins. Live chat and messaging suit quick reflections, journalling between sessions or for those who prefer written exchanges. These options make it simpler to fit counselling around work, family life and other commitments.
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Experience
7+ years
Registered with
BACP
Languages
English