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Alexa St. Martin

Relationship and identity-focused social worker

LCSW Hawaii

Experience
3 years in practice
Focus areas
LGBT, Relationship, Family
Approaches
Gottman Method, Attachment-Based Therapy
Languages
English

About Alexa

Alexa St. Martin is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who helps people facing relationship and identity concerns.

Background and approach

She works with people dealing with anxiety, depression, grief, and stress. Parents and partners often come to her for help with communication, intimacy issues, and attachment struggles.

She blends practical conversation with deeper reflection. Sessions focus on what feels most urgent - easing panic, improving connection, or coping with life changes.

She uses approaches that pay attention to relationships and personal meaning, including the Gottman Method and attachment-based work. Alexa has practiced in Hawaii and brings three years of professional experience as an LCSW.

Her background includes work across community settings where she supported people through separation, fertility struggles, gender questions, and trauma. She is comfortable discussing kink, polyamory, and non-traditional relationship structures when those topics come up.

Her style is collaborative and direct. She listens to each person’s story and helps set clear, manageable goals.

Therapy can include talking, reflecting on past patterns, and learning new ways to communicate and cope. Sessions are offered in English and are available through video calls, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging.

Getting started involves a short questionnaire and scheduling a first session so the two of you can decide the best next steps together.

How relationship-focused therapy works online

Attachment-Based Therapy helps people understand how early connections shape current relationships and emotional reactions; it can be useful for attachment issues, abandonment concerns, and improving bonding with partners. The Gottman Method concentrates on communication patterns and practical skills couples or partners can use to reduce conflict and rebuild trust. Client-Centered Therapy centers the person's experience, using empathic listening and reflection to help clarify goals and make choices that fit their life.

Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Alexa will talk with each person about their needs and goals, then suggest which methods might be most helpful. Together they can try different ways of working and adjust the plan as progress and priorities become clearer.

Online sessions offer a range of formats: video calls for face-to-face conversation, phone sessions when video isn't needed, live chat for shorter check-ins, and text-based messaging for ongoing support. These options make it easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule, use less bandwidth when needed, or check in between sessions without arranging travel.

Frequently asked questions

What kinds of issues does Alexa address?
She helps people with relationship problems, LGBT and gender issues, trauma and abuse, intimacy-related concerns, stress, anxiety, grief, self-esteem, depression, and coping with life changes.
What is her therapeutic approach like?
She uses relational and meaning-focused approaches such as the Gottman Method, attachment-based work, and client-centered techniques to improve communication and emotional connection.
What training and experience does she have?
She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with three years of post-licensure experience practicing in Hawaii and work history across community settings.
Where does she practice and what credential does she hold?
She practices in Hawaii and holds the credential HI LCSW as listed in her profile.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are available?
Therapy is offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to fit different needs and schedules.
How does pricing work for sessions?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with her?
Start by selecting the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule sessions according to the therapist's availability.

Areas of expertise

Primary focus

LGBTRelationship issuesFamily conflictsTrauma and abuseIntimacy-related issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyGottman MethodJungian TherapyNarrative TherapyPsychodynamic TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

3+ years

Licensed in

Hawaii

Languages

English